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by Andra Medea


How are you going to handle that without looking like a villain to both your kids and your parents? . So many other books offer theory and just solace. This book offers real-world, practical tips that anyone can put into practice, in an easy-to-read, very logical sequence--and they WORK.

How are you going to handle that without looking like a villain to both your kids and your parents? Find out in this book; Medea spends a good amount of time on this scenario, and as usual, her advice is filled with things any human can do once they control the adrenaline surge, using her earlier tips on the subject. The only thing I might differ from Medea on is this: "Your job is not to change ; they're adults and can change themselves.

Along With Your Parents & Family (Even When They Push Your Buttons).

But author Andra Medea, a renowned conflict management expert, believes that you can go home without going crazy, if you learn how to solve conflicts here and now. This good-natured and humorous book offers a creative variety of strategies for making it happen. Inside, you'll learn how to use the four-level conflict continuum to understand conflict within your family and work toward resolution. From petty bickering to hurtful remarks to naked aggression, each level of conflict requires a unique approach. Going Home without Going Crazy: How to Get Along With Your Parents & Family (Even When They Push Your Buttons). 1572244496 (ISBN13: 9781572244498). This good-natured and humorous book offers a creative. Head Off Conflict Right at the Door. Conflict-Management Tips for Every Family Visit. For many of us, walking through the door of our parents' home is like stepping back in time. We leave our independent adult lives out on the sidewalk and resume our old roles-with all the emotional baggage that goes with them.

How To Get Along With Your Parents

How To Get Along With Your Parents. by Dawson McAllister. Nothing has a greater impact on our lives than our families. Give them a little help, maybe they need it, maybe they don’t. But either way, it is easier to do what they ask instead of arguing. When you forgive, you let go of the negative emotions that control you. If you don’t forgive the people who have hurt you, you are only asking for a life ruled by bitterness and rage. Alyssa has some good advice: When I was growing up and my family was having hard times, I did two things: I prayed and I wrote.

On the right, people cannot imagine what the left is so afraid of, says Medea, the author of Going Home Without Going Crazy: How to Get Along with Your Parents and Family (Even When They Push Your Buttons). Being with your family over the holidays and sharing family stories is restorative, Medea says, Those of us who know and value our family histories are more resilient, live longer and can deal with more of what life hands u. .It’s important to remember that politicians come and go, but these people will still be your family a generation or two from.

Sometimes it can feel like getting along with your parents is impossible. However, they are perhaps your best teachers, and will likely influence many of the decisions you make.

When booking accommodations for your family vacation, consider a.You can drop the kids off at the kids club and get alone time with your spouse, o.

When booking accommodations for your family vacation, consider a vacation home that gives you all more space to spread out. This will give you the time you need to cool down or get some much-needed personal space. Set Aside Alone Time. Just because you’re traveling with your family doesn’t mean you have to be joined at the hip 24/7. You can drop the kids off at the kids club and get alone time with your spouse, or you can both enjoy your kid-free time separately.

Leave your parent's alone. You married a man that doesn't get along with your family. We don't know why, but the reasons really aren't that important. You need to work with what you have got. The more you try to push them together, the more resentful and angry everyone is going to be. They are all adults, it's not your responsibility to make everyone friends. You married a man that doesn't. What is important, is that you maintain your marriage, you see your parents, and your children form a bond with their maternal grandparents (unless there is some compelling reason for the children to be kept away eg. addiction, and abuse would be two very good reasons). Go visit your parents.

Family meals matter to older children as well, even as they experience the biological shifts of adolescent growth. Others missed a step along the way, study ineffectively or are grappling with an undiagnosed learning difference

Family meals matter to older children as well, even as they experience the biological shifts of adolescent growth. Keep that social context for food as much as you can, even through the scheduling complexities of middle school and high school. Keep the family table a no-screen zone, and keep on talking and eating together. More on Your Child's Diet. Others missed a step along the way, study ineffectively or are grappling with an undiagnosed learning difference. Determining the nature of the problem will point the way to the most helpful solution. More on Children and School Pressure.

You can get to know your parents as people. Even though so many of our generation are living with parents, there is still a.And prices are probably only going higher

You can get to know your parents as people. and they can get to know the adult you. When you're a child, you'll have an entirely different kind of relationship with your parents than you might have when you're an adult. Even though so many of our generation are living with parents, there is still a lingering social stigma that comes along with it, and you will have to face it head-on. And prices are probably only going higher.

Head Off Conflict Right at the Door

Conflict-Management Tips for Every Family Visit

For many of us, walking through the door of our parents' home is like stepping back in time. We leave our independent adult lives out on the sidewalk and resume our old roles-with all the emotional baggage that goes with them. Instead of enjoying a time of togetherness and connection, most of us spend holidays and homecomings torn between resentment and sadness. But author Andra Medea, a renowned conflict management expert, believes that you can go home without going crazy, if you learn how to solve conflicts here and now. This good-natured and humorous book offers a creative variety of strategies for making it happen.

Inside, you'll learn how to use the four-level conflict continuum to understand conflict within your family and work toward resolution. From petty bickering to hurtful remarks to naked aggression, each level of conflict requires a unique approach. With these ideas in mind, you can use the book's other techniques to deal with anger and resentment, communicate more effectively, and strengthen relationships with family members. And did we mention in-laws? In the end, you'll find that you can reconnect to your family as often as you like-without going crazy.

Going Home without Going Crazy: How to Get Along with Your Parents & Family (Even When They Push Your Buttons) epub download

ISBN13: 978-1572244498

ISBN: 1572244496

Author: Andra Medea

Category: Self-Help

Subcategory: Relationships

Language: English

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1 edition (September 1, 2006)

Pages: 208 pages

ePUB size: 1260 kb

FB2 size: 1600 kb

Rating: 4.2

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Honeirsil
Going Home without going Crazy is just a repeat of her first book on Conflict. Not much new.
Honeirsil
Going Home without going Crazy is just a repeat of her first book on Conflict. Not much new.
Hucama
This book is fantastic!! It gives practical, tangible advice. I love that it immediately dives into material and doesn't bore the reader with volumes of personal stories. This is a must read for anyone that is looking to change their family dynamic by taking clearly defined action steps. Wonderful read and the best read out there about how to handle family conflict.
Hucama
This book is fantastic!! It gives practical, tangible advice. I love that it immediately dives into material and doesn't bore the reader with volumes of personal stories. This is a must read for anyone that is looking to change their family dynamic by taking clearly defined action steps. Wonderful read and the best read out there about how to handle family conflict.
Acebiolane
If you're thinking of buying this book because you're looking for practical ways you can avoid or manage conflict in your family, from your immediate family to uncles and grandparents, this is the book for you! Let me say it agin: if you're looking for things YOU can do, you won't find better than this. If you're looking for a book that will tell you how much others in your family need to change, go somewhere else... and don't expect any change in your family's conflict patterns anytime soon. (After all, if they're reading books about how awful you are and how you need to change, and you're reading books about how awful they are and how they need to change, it doesn't take a genius to see that no change is going to be coming down the pike.) Author Andra Medea sums up the purpose of the book nicely on page two: "...The primary focus will be on what you can do now to solve conflicts that are happening now. There isn't much you can do to change the past. But you can do quite a bit to change what happens now and when you visit your folks next week. ...To keep the odds in your favor, stick with matters YOU control." (Emphasis is mine)

Medea's book goes on to define four levels of conflict, starting with the healthy and ending with the predatory, and offers fantastic, practical tips from the effective use of new body language to how to contol an unwanted adrenaline rush in yourself and others to the more whimsical and delightful, such as this gem: when you're in the car and your kids are driving you crazy with their squabbling or complaining, have them sing their complaints. You and they will quickly find it's impossible to do so without laughing.

One of my favorite tips follows this all too true-to-life introduction: "You walk through the door at the annual family gathering. Instead of hearing, 'Hey, great to see you!' you hear, 'Idiot! Don't track that mess in here!'" Medea suggests saying, "I left something back in the car" and walking right back out the door. This gives the offender the chance to realize what s/he just said, and change... though I have to admit my temptation would be to walk out the door and drive away, period. Another of Medea's many examples will probably ring a bell with parents: the grandparents' great idea to take the grandkids to Disneyland---presented to the kids in front of you, without any warning,even though you don't think it's a good idea. How are you going to handle that without looking like a villain to both your kids and your parents? Find out in this book; Medea spends a good amount of time on this scenario, and as usual, her advice is filled with things any human can do once they control the adrenaline surge, using her earlier tips on the subject.

The only thing I might differ from Medea on is this: "Your job is not to change [the thief, rageholic, drunk, tyrant]; they're adults and can change themselves. Your job is to protect yourself and those who depend on you." She goes on to say that if a family member has a drug problem, they're welcome inside the family when they're not on drugs: "Aunt Josie is welcome inside the [family], but she can't take her friend meth in with her. Meth---the enemy---must stay outside." I absolutely agree with this, but would add that it doesn't apply just to drugs, it applies to other problems like rage too. I've been on both sides of that one, and I can tell you that even when an adult desperately wants to change and sets about to do so, even with the most iron discipline it can take years to unmake a habit installed early in life and nurtured by an unhealthy family situation for two decades---which Medea also recognizes as a defense mechanism. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater---let the person in the family, but like meth, keep the rage outside.

So many other books offer theory and just solace. This book offers real-world, practical tips that anyone can put into practice, in an easy-to-read, very logical sequence---and they WORK. There are some tips that would also apply to other situations; for instance, the list of submissive body language signals on page 106 apply very nicely to business dealings, and the excellent chapter on direct and indirect communication would work in any situation. With that in mind, I also recommend Medea's earlier book, Conflict Unraveled, for the same kind of tips and information on conflict management outside the family.

Bottom line: if you're going home for the holidays or anytime soon and/or your family could never star on Leave It to Beaver, buy this book now and devour it before you reach the front door.
Acebiolane
If you're thinking of buying this book because you're looking for practical ways you can avoid or manage conflict in your family, from your immediate family to uncles and grandparents, this is the book for you! Let me say it agin: if you're looking for things YOU can do, you won't find better than this. If you're looking for a book that will tell you how much others in your family need to change, go somewhere else... and don't expect any change in your family's conflict patterns anytime soon. (After all, if they're reading books about how awful you are and how you need to change, and you're reading books about how awful they are and how they need to change, it doesn't take a genius to see that no change is going to be coming down the pike.) Author Andra Medea sums up the purpose of the book nicely on page two: "...The primary focus will be on what you can do now to solve conflicts that are happening now. There isn't much you can do to change the past. But you can do quite a bit to change what happens now and when you visit your folks next week. ...To keep the odds in your favor, stick with matters YOU control." (Emphasis is mine)

Medea's book goes on to define four levels of conflict, starting with the healthy and ending with the predatory, and offers fantastic, practical tips from the effective use of new body language to how to contol an unwanted adrenaline rush in yourself and others to the more whimsical and delightful, such as this gem: when you're in the car and your kids are driving you crazy with their squabbling or complaining, have them sing their complaints. You and they will quickly find it's impossible to do so without laughing.

One of my favorite tips follows this all too true-to-life introduction: "You walk through the door at the annual family gathering. Instead of hearing, 'Hey, great to see you!' you hear, 'Idiot! Don't track that mess in here!'" Medea suggests saying, "I left something back in the car" and walking right back out the door. This gives the offender the chance to realize what s/he just said, and change... though I have to admit my temptation would be to walk out the door and drive away, period. Another of Medea's many examples will probably ring a bell with parents: the grandparents' great idea to take the grandkids to Disneyland---presented to the kids in front of you, without any warning,even though you don't think it's a good idea. How are you going to handle that without looking like a villain to both your kids and your parents? Find out in this book; Medea spends a good amount of time on this scenario, and as usual, her advice is filled with things any human can do once they control the adrenaline surge, using her earlier tips on the subject.

The only thing I might differ from Medea on is this: "Your job is not to change [the thief, rageholic, drunk, tyrant]; they're adults and can change themselves. Your job is to protect yourself and those who depend on you." She goes on to say that if a family member has a drug problem, they're welcome inside the family when they're not on drugs: "Aunt Josie is welcome inside the [family], but she can't take her friend meth in with her. Meth---the enemy---must stay outside." I absolutely agree with this, but would add that it doesn't apply just to drugs, it applies to other problems like rage too. I've been on both sides of that one, and I can tell you that even when an adult desperately wants to change and sets about to do so, even with the most iron discipline it can take years to unmake a habit installed early in life and nurtured by an unhealthy family situation for two decades---which Medea also recognizes as a defense mechanism. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater---let the person in the family, but like meth, keep the rage outside.

So many other books offer theory and just solace. This book offers real-world, practical tips that anyone can put into practice, in an easy-to-read, very logical sequence---and they WORK. There are some tips that would also apply to other situations; for instance, the list of submissive body language signals on page 106 apply very nicely to business dealings, and the excellent chapter on direct and indirect communication would work in any situation. With that in mind, I also recommend Medea's earlier book, Conflict Unraveled, for the same kind of tips and information on conflict management outside the family.

Bottom line: if you're going home for the holidays or anytime soon and/or your family could never star on Leave It to Beaver, buy this book now and devour it before you reach the front door.
Kabei
i haven't even read this book, it is so full of confusing detail i found it hard to follow and gave up
Kabei
i haven't even read this book, it is so full of confusing detail i found it hard to follow and gave up